Unless you really have a dysfunctional family, I think you did good opening up this post. 2013 is less than 24 hours to closing its books and there are thousands of end-of-year posts making rounds…..this inclusive. Cliché right? I can’t say but I really wanted to have an end of year post too….gotcha!
Seriously though, you should read this. Let’s
talk read a little.
So 2013 was fun, sad, really low, and high at various point. The constant fluctuation of emotions and happenings must have made you contemplate committing suicide, quitting your job, having an affair, killing your boss, disappearing from the constant pressure of not measuring up to standards or just throwing in the trowel. Well, I did contemplate one of the above and it was definitely not having an affair….I’d be cheating on myself. Killing my boss…errm, nope….need the salary. Yeah, disappearing. I wanted it so bad I was ready to beg for a plane ticket on the streets…..don’t worry, I didn’t and if I did, perhaps I wore a disguise. **winks**
So I didn’t because I had the support of my family every single time I wanted going MIA (Missing in Action) or complained about how much I wanted quitting my job and not actually doing it. I am quite sure their ears must have hurt a lot from the incessant cries and bold declarations of never going back to that ‘blasted office’ or ‘leaving Nigeria for good!’. I write this, I am as much sad as happy that I didn’t quit and most probably, they are going to have to deal with another 365 days of whining…………if THAT miracle does not happen REALLY fast.
But this post is not about me. It is about you.
The people around you that
give a shit care and love you are the ones that have kept you till now and regardless of the fact that you do not appreciate them enough (okay, maybe you do), they are always going to be there…especially your family. The sycophancy, the insincere compliments, the obvious ‘yes you can’ when you simply cannot all sums up one thing – the good people in your life love you enough to want to see a smile on your face and see you get high up the ladder. They are the reason why you are entering yet another year hopeful and all geared up to try again knowing that when you do fall, they will be there to catch you, treat your wounds and probably put you back on that coaster.
The cheerful soothing thought of knowing that you have someone to take care of you when you are down, watch your back when your defenseless, go crazy when you are cheated or insulted and give you limitless support no matter what, does not only feel good but psychologically empowers you to live a healthy, hopeful and fulfilling life. Having the right friends for these is awesome and absolutely liberating but cannot substitute for a loving family that will be there when all others are not. This is because of the infinite desire to have that deep ardent connection with another being – Avatar anyone?
So as we enter the New Year, let’s not forget to appreciate our loved ones….the people on whose love and support we thrive and on whose believe we have achieved. Buy them gifts on their birthdays, buy presents on spur, pay more compliments – lie if you have to, hug more, kiss more…after brushing, be more supportive of their choices…unless it is totally impossible to do so (some choices can really put you to the test) and simply be there for them as they have been for you and much more.
Appreciate your family – that you didn’t choose and the friends that you did. That does not rule out strangers that help you overcome obstacles, give you a shoulder to cry on and lend you a helping hand when you are all out of options. Also, remember to be that stranger.
The world needs a little more love in its self-centeredness and you are as much a giver as a receiver.
And that’s it folks. Live, Laugh, Love
Happy New Year
“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen
“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.”
― Jon Katz
“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.”
― Elbert Hubbard