Foreword: Just because you are female doesn’t make you the victim.
Last week, I posted IT IS A MAN’S WORLD: TAKE A FREE PISS 18+ and got mixed reactions. As is always the case with “gender-based articles”, it is regarded with contempt and often times a taboo on some levels as it is sensed as an attack on persona and long standing codes of conducts of the society. While I absolutely know that not all men are as described in that article, generality was not avoided because balls cancer is not confined to just the loins. If not discovered early and treated as a terminal, the whole body is at risk of shutting down its operations; not just the segmented body part_pun intended #couplesretreat.
I write these things not because these standpoints are the ideals nor do I disregard the societal values with no understanding of the codes of conduct but because I’d rather risk speaking my convictions than
develop mouth odor swallow them. These issues are not in shades of white and black. One only tries to identify societal ills, analysis the imbalance and make feeble attempts at correcting them as if one can without force.
These are my Interests and my interests are my Values.
So you really think you are the Victim?
Saudi’s first female film director does not think so and so do I. Read her story here: http://www.npr.org/2013/09/12/221738137/saudi-s-first-female-film-director-says-women-aren-t-victims. I think this widespread misconception about being victims is responsible for the perpetually defeatist stance of women all over the world and also why some women take advantage of this to perpetrate evil, live atrocious and belligerent lives underlined with violence and outright disregard for propriety and responsibility. This school of thought feeds the myth that women are always on the receiving end. It would seem that this school of thought mentally instill fear sensors and negative awareness in women that summarily affects the way a woman sees herself and place in the society. This negative consciousness of being a victim emits inferiority complex and in some cases aggressiveness that does more harm than good. If indeed we are preaching equality, then we must preach it wholly; focusing on purpose, responsibility and contribution and not always playing “the men are out to destroy us and so we must always beware of their treacherous ways” track till it cracks.
I have heard countless times that the first sin you commit is being born a woman. Really? I certainly don’t subscribe to that. I be too much spiricoco believer to no say we ALL for done SIN tru Adam, so na we ALL dey wear dirty necklace enta dis we world so. And why is there a
moronic dogmatic double standard when it comes to women abusers anyway? A woman slaps a man and it is the man’s fault. Actually, it is the man’s fault for keeping his face just as it is the woman’s fault for providing the soft cheeks….hehehe but seriously though, there is absolutely no excuse for a woman or man to abuse another human being whether you were goaded or not. Wait…..that sounds like I am never allowed to vent…..Is this the Long Sought Fruit of the Spirit? I certainly hope so.
A woman is a chronic flirt and it is the man’s fault.
Maybe it is.A woman acts as a whore alias Biblical King James Version and she takes exception to been referred or treated as one. This reminds me of a female caller #call-in program on CoolFm a Radio station. She asserts that almost all Nigerian females are of the same cloth the female Nigerian BBA 2013 representative is cut from. While I vehemently take exception to this generality (don’t call me up on cervical cancer analogy here), I finally see the point. She is of the same cloth and as such cannot see more than her nose. My point? #feminists should fight for worthy causes and not fight the society for being women. Let’s face it, not all women need saving and definitely not all of them are victims.
It is not surprising to have women abusers. In fact I would go to the length of saying that they are twice as mean and
heartless without a heart_pun intended. The society places women on huge pedestal and view them as fragile angels who can do no wrong and I think #feminists might have a lot to do with this truth distortion. Read http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/how-feminists-corrupt-dv-research/. It mentions that the overwhelming evidence in patriarchal dominance theory may be flawed. I add that researches and eye witness accounts show that partner violence in relationships, domination and control by women occurs as often as by men and is strongly associated with perpetration of abuse by both women and men. Although there are many causes of the persistence of the patriarchal dominance focus, the article reveals that the predominant cause has been the efforts of feminists to conceal, deny, and distort the evidence; #feminist researchers who have let their ideological commitments overrule their scientific commitments. The ideological commitment to the idea that men are almost always the sole perpetrator is the reason why there are readily available published data on male perpetrators and female victims; deliberately omitting data on female perpetrators and male victims. It has been said that this method of concealment and distortion is institutionalized in publications of governments, the United Nations, and the World Health Organization.
There are countless shelters for battered women, programs, initiatives and groups all clamoring for rights and protection of their interests as well as the “treatment programs” for male perpetrators. Since we are all singing the gender-equality anthem and taking the pledge of genderless society, we might as well promote shelters for battered men and treatment programs for female perpetrators. Please do let me know of an institution established to cater to abused men as I am yet to see one. I guess the men are too busy to get justice. Moreover, the issue of whether men will make use of these provisions is another thing #ego.
The constant uproar and brainwashing of the female gender into thinking that they are the
bottom of barrels weaker sex does nothing but continuously erase forms of self-respect or value one might add. Always giving them a shoulder to cry on will never stop the plight of women. There! I said it. Every woman should come therefore to the realization of her position and not act as though she is constantly been smothered by men but harness her ability and her gender into a tool to living a meaningful life.
No, you are not a victim.
You are that human that has refused to get up say;
I am a woman
I am human
I am not the victim
I am the one that has just discovered who I am.
Recap of the major Headlines:
The madam versus housemaid wickedness
The wife versus husband abuse and violence
The stepmother versus stepchildren witch-hunt
The lady boss and spitefulness
The prostitute and her scapegoats
P.S: Do I say cheers to the freaking weekend? That has an Esetic ring to it. **winks**